I am an obese person because of which I exclude my self from several activities and group. WHY? because at times i am not confident about the way I look. Because I feel people will make fun of me. Their are several reasons. Its all a matter of my mental state. no one excludes me, its only i myself who refarins from things.
I dont dance because i feel i look funny. Why do I have those inhibitions.
There are many people like me whose find that their physical self is proving to be a hindrance for them. I am doing a project on the topic" LOVE THY BODY".
Ifyou have any stories to share where you have felt dejected or inferior because of your physical self please tell me or email me. You can choose to be anonymous about it.
It would be great to know that there are others also who suffer from a similar mindset.
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the cost of hating my body for long has been immesurable.i guess that has affected every area of my life. god alone knows how mjuch time i have wasted on self hatred?i can only hope to change now and love what i have
i miss out on activities that i want to do because i isolate or i dont have the energy to participate.because my body is not healthy enough to tolerate it. it has cost me pain. trouble in relations and a healthy heart.
I have missed out on spontaneity, on truly having fun in social situations because of focusing on myself and my looks, real or imagined. I have missed out on enjoying even the food I eat, because of guilt and haste. I have missed out on allowing myself to be loved wholly, because I am forever judging, forever critical of my own body and my own self
I could miss out on a million things...the opportunity to love and be loved, going swimming on a hot day, true enjoyment of everyday life, mental and physical health, the pleasures of eating well, having good sex, and getting sweaty during a game of one-on-one basketball. So far, failing to love my body has cost me numerous swims, walks, shopping adventures, nights out on the town dancing, and various degrees of everything I listed above. Thank goodness I still have time to learn and live.
What will I miss out on if I fail to love my body? True peace with who I am. I am not separate from my body, so I cannot continue living day to day telling myself I'm fat, undesirable, and worthless without it affecting all of me. I have very little positive self-esteem, which has resulted in little confidence in myself and insecurities in social relationships. So far my extreme self-consciousness has cost me many social opportunities throughout the years. I used to love to swim, now I'm too ashamed of how I look to wear a swim suit. I used to like to exercise, now I'm too concerned with the thin, beautiful people staring at me. Regardless of whether I'm ever able to get thin, I need to find a way to love myself just as I am. I want to feel at peace with myself
"Sometimes I worry when I am with someone if he wishes I am just a little bit thinner or cuter,"
I miss out on a lot because I hate my body. First of all, I don't enjoy sex as
much as I could because I always think that my boyfriend hates my body as much as I do. This is not true, in fact he tells and shows me that he loves it. Apart from that I don't have as much fun as I could have. Before going out to work, a party or seeing a friend or I can become completely miserable because I think everybody will think: My God, she's fat! Even when I know that most of these people don't care about my weight.
I will miss out on the freedom to have plain old fun. I look back, when years ago I was so self conscience about my body-and I looked great. I could have taken off my shorts and worn a bathing suit in swim classes. I could have worn a skirt with out pantyhose, I could have had more fun building sandcastles with my daughters. But I held back, because I hated my body so much.
I missed out on a lot of fun, with my friends, husband and my children while they were toddlers.
I punished myself, I lost out on a lot of happiness, I only hurt myself because of my insecurities
i hope this can help you: pls look for this video in www.youtube.com, The Journey Home To Love
it had helped millions of people around the world. I hope you will be one of them . Be Blessed!
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